Toilet learning - three stages
There's a great feeling you get when your child does the right thing at the perfect time. It makes you feel proud, makes you feel like a parent that is great. There are times when your child repeatedly makes mistakes, messes or does the wrong thing and you also feel as a failure. Bathroom learning could be rough like that. Otis often makes wrecks or has injuries but it's worse or more public than many others, some days. This morning it absolutely was on my bed it was three pools at our parent-toddler class. Mostly I simply get on with things, I never make a fuss. He is getting it. So where are we at? Otis has been using the potty at home for several months now. At home he will generally go without trousers or have under-pants on. If we are going to go out, have merely been somewhere or have guests over, Otis will wear pants/shorts. Remember the summer of it's here. At home he will generally make it to the potty but there is at least one accident a day, sometimes more.
Beware of the under-pant obsession. Should it not have a car on it - Otis won't wear it.
Emptying the potty is a big deal. Otis takes care and great pride in taking the used potty to the toilet, emptying it and wiping it clean. Afterward the fun of flushing the toilet just like a big boy. He is super inquisitive about other family members using the toilet. I think most toddlers are like this, exploring what goes on around them. Toileting at home - Phase One complete! We are now working on Phase Two - toileting away from home. When we go out training trousers are typically worn by Otis. The only time Otis wears a nappy is at night. As Otis does not consistently makes it to the toilet while we are out the training trousers capture most of the mess. I 'll have Otis sit on the potty, before we go out. Frequently he simply gets up and walks away. I am going to give him a drink of water while he sits on the potty, if I understand he really must go. This is the sole way I have been able to get him to make use of the potty on cue. There's something about having. It is working. I keep a potty in the vehicle and I will often ask him to use the potty while we're outside if I still feel like he needs to go. He never has. This might not work for him. If we're at a friends house or at school I'll take Otis to the toilet on arrival (if it's been a little while since he has been) or when he gives me the indication that he must go (generally achieving/touching his slacks). So we've some success while we're out but it's undoubtedly demanding work and attention.
Phase Three is at night. Otis wears a nappy at night but often he takes it off. On his bed he's the puddle pad under his sheet. During the day he require to visit the potty straight away and will generally awaken. I think the use of the potty increases and night time toileting naturally as Otis begins taking his nappy off more and will happen shortly.
Toilet learning is a location where we haven't done it by the book. We've struggled at times and I am just explaining how it is working for us not I'd recommend it to others. We are finding our way. In the event you are searching for ideas or recommendations how exactly to approach toilet learning here are some of the finest tricks I've ever read. We'll be travelling again but I am not feeling uncertain. There'll be times when Otis will want help/a change of clothes but I'm actually feeling assured. The turtle that was red potty was picked up during our last travels and it has become the favourite of Otis. It may be travelling with us. How are you going with toilet learning? I actually don't really know of anyone at the same stage as us. Before they begin, most children we know have successfully learned toileting at a younger age or the parents have decided to wait until a subsequent age. Individuals think we've began late or are shocked because we've started early.
DIY Wool Puddle Pad
What's a Puddle Pad?
A pad that functions much just like a mattress protector. Additionally, it may be utilized as to take care of your car seat or a change mat. Excellent for toilet learning as well as for ECers, leaky nappies, leaky infants toddles.
Why now? With his toilet learning on pants Otis will frequently take a rest throughout the day. Some moisture is absorbed by the slacks but I do not need to risk a mattress that is yucky. I almost bought a puddle pad until I realised how simple it truly is to make one yourself.
I truly dislike the mattress protectors I Have seen in our stores - artificial, sticky and crinkly. Cotton pads offer some protection but not as much as wool. I really love wool plus it's:
Breathable, helps to maintain a comfortable body temperature Comfy
Natural Antibacterial and anti fungal Uncomplicated to clean, with little leaks a good airing is all that's required odour repellent, only air often
How? Find or parsimony a 100% wool blanket, preferably one that is soft and nice. I found this blanket. If you are setting the blanket under a white or light sheet you may want a plain or neutral coloured blanket.
Felt the wool in a hot wash. I utilized the hot water setting and followed with a hot dry cycle.
Cut the blanket to size. I cut two pieces the same size for extra thickness, I also ironed the blanket so it would lie flat.
Sew the two pieces together. I utilized a simple stitch throughout the border just to keep the pieces together. As the wool is felted it doesn't fray. Should you don't sew one layer could be simply used by you or fold one layer in half.
Trim the edges to neaten up.
I 'ven't lanolised. As Otis is sleeping with his pants on I expect the puddle pad to just ever get moist not totally soaked. Additionally I suppose it'd demand plenty of lanolin that's not cheap so I'm giving it a go unlanolised. Fingers crossed!
I am going to set the pad underneath the sheet it is kept by it in place. So hopefully I've made it large enough, he does not move much in his slumber. I 've heaps of the felted blanket remaining, I am thinking of cutting it into squares for polishing or cleaning??
Toilet Learning Trousers
Along with shoes we also ordered these toilet learning pants from Michael Olaf.
Otis continues to be wearing training pants for a little while like the reddish ones in this post although as you'll be able to see they have been bulky and consume much like a nappy Otis or I could even tell he was wet. I used to be searching for pants that were;
Absorbent enough there is no puddle but the child still feels wet
Easy to determine the child is wet
Slimline, not in any way bulky
Simple to get off and on, even to get an incredibly young child
Generated from natural fibers
These trousers are perfect for people. They are manufactured from organic cotton and so far no pools. Not even a wet bed. Although I don't intentionally have him sleep in them. I normally shift him before bed, sometimes I do not get a chance.
They are only worn by Otis when we're at home. I'm in a position to find out when he is wet and have worked out a small pattern, when he's in training pants. Otis is also quite conscious of when he must use the toilet (potty) but sometimes we do not make it in time. The slacks also help with self confidence. We will go put on a dry pair, no issue when the pants get wet.
Toilet Learning Tricks
The aforementioned graphic is of the toilet learning place of Otis. We're utilizing a cube chair here (the other is in his dressing/care of self place) as Otis desires support when standing. The pail is for soiled clothing. You may read a signal of preparation is walking. Otis is not walking but definitely knows when he needs to use the toilet. I used to not need to waste this opportunity so have commenced toilet learning, and lose his clear sensitive period.
Camilla (mother of two) recently sent me these toileting tricks. I found them so useful I wished to share alongside you. Maybe you may find them useful also? The Managers at Forest Bluff School have provided these hints and I sincerely thank them for allowing me to publish here.
Indirect preparations for toileting From birth, alter your youngster 's diaper as soon as she is wet to give lots of indirect training (this can sometimes mean as often as every hour).
Using cloth diapers from the start helps immensely because they feel wet instantly, in developing comprehension. This instant feedback helps the child make the link between the impulse to urinate and the consequence of releasing her muscles. Toilet training thus happens gradually, over time. When your son or daughter is right at the age of pulling up to standing, let her stand while you shift her and talk about what you are doing, even calling for the child where you'll be able to. This way, take an interest and she is able to see what's happening. Move the diaper changing to the bathroom when your child starts to stand and walk, if you've not done so already. It will help them make the right organizations between action and location.
When to start toileting
Between eighteen and twelve months is for starting toilet knowledge, the sensitive period. It could start later or sooner, according to the little one. Look for signals of readiness: An interest in cycles (bib now goes in the hamper, hamper would go to the basement, in the equipment, etc. Child watches with interest and also follows along).
Kid is walking. Kid touches her/his genitals are noticed by you. Kid is beginning to have bowel movements at specific times of day. Occasionally a child shows none of these hints but will become interested the moment you begin to bring her attention to toileting, so we advocate beginning before 18 months. Equip for toileting success! To get started, purchase as many as 30 pairs of thick underpants. We urge Gerber training trousers which come 3 in a pack for about 5 dollars at Target (US). They can be long-lasting, although the most absorbent and expensive. For success, the leg holes the panties loose that it could be pulled up and down without extraneous attempt on the child's part and also must certanly be big enough. To get a child between 18 and 12 months, Gerber training pants, size two, is recommended. As the child approaches 18 months, or if she's big for her age, she's going to desire size three. Place an item of rubberized flannel and purchase several sheets of it for the bed. Make sure you have many pairs of pull-on pants for your own child, as he can must change often.
Have loads of bed sheets so you could change them frequently.
Pull rugs that are fine up. Discover "Nature's Miracle" at a pet shop, to quickly and effectively clean rugs or the flooring when necessary. This product is safe for fine rugs removes not just the blot, but the scent, and can just be left on the carpet.
Set out little potties, a variety if necessary, and support the kid to take a seat on them, when she or he does praising. Our favorite is the really modest Baby Bjorn potty, costing about $10 in catalogues. There are just two sizes, both useful, as opposed to the toilet that is real, helps the little one in two ways: he can be more independent and feel secure; and he can clearly see his results-waste in the potty-afterwards. Put a potty in every bathroom having a little bucket to the left and modest basket of clean knickers on the right. A folded towel or bath mat beneath the three things creates a non slip surface and a arranges appearance. When you start toileting These first three points are the most important, because they must do with attracting on your kid's attention for this part of our everyday lives: Let her see you and other family members sitting on the toilet as much as you can. In the beginning, take your child to the toilet every half hour or so and encourage her to sit on it while you sit on the adult toilet ( just to get an instant, as would be natural). Carrying this out helps your kid to master through the experience of utilizing the toilet, and this works much better than asking your kid," Do you need to head to the restroom ?" Which usually gets a "No!" even when they do have to really go! It's very important that the child change into dry knickers promptly after wetting it. We want her to be utilized to the feeling of dryness, and to react right away to wetness.
In the initial phases, your child could wear just her panties from your waist down, so that using the potty and altering is straightforward and does not take long. Timing is key with getting bowel movements into the toilets! Make it a routine time to go the bathroom together, in the event you become aware of your child has a bowel movement round the exact same time every day and sit on the toilets. Observe him attentively and take him to the bathroom instantly if he went in his underpants, so you can help him change, observe the BM go to the toilet and flush it down if your child is unusual in his timing. Continue your effort to get him to sit and "hang out" to the toilet when you think a bowel movement might be on its way - you can even read novels together to pass the time if this works. Continue to try to involve the kid in dressing and undressing. In case the kid urinates in her toilet, show her that you're setting the pee into the larger toilet and flushing. Subsequently collaborate in redressing her, giving special awareness of helping her learn to place her panties that is dry on alone.
It will help in the early stages to have a potty in whatever room he is playing in so it can be seen by him and get to it. He should only wear pants which can be a cinch to pull himself up and down, and could possibly be naked or in underwear in the waist down when reasonable in this stage.
Throw out all diapers when you start this toiling stage. Sense our confidence that, eventually, he'll manage to utilize the toilet every time and you child needs to be set up for success. Until they are older, many children sleep too deeply to awaken and make use of the toilet. There are other methods to handle this, depending on her age, your child, and also the period you've reached in toileting. Confer with your child's director. Through the initial phases of toilet training, bring a potty with you (to use at your destination) when you take your kid out in the vehicle. Stick it in the bathroom of your house you might be seeing, even supposing it's merely a brief stay. This helps set the routine of going to the toilet upon arriving at destinations and upon leaving your house. Upon returning often, before leaving your house and when out as well as around, take your child to public toilets. We recommend making it a custom, and matter-of-factly saying, "We all sit on the toilet to get a minute before going out and upon coming home". (Only get them to sit to get a moment - if they pop back up or don't urinate, just dismiss it and move on. Eventually, they will choose to make use of this chance.)
For plane rides or special occasions, we encourage you never to place your child back into a diaper, but rather, set an Nikki diaper wrap over her panties. Made of soft waterproof fabric this diaper cover permits you to still check for wetness, so the training period is not interrupted. It is a nice " safety net" for you in certain public situations. Constantly keep a couple changes of panties and pants in the vehicle, so that you resume your shopping, then can go back to the vehicle for an instant change when your kid is wet. For me the best advice is the way to handle toileting when away from home. Caspar grasped before he was two however I had him in nappies because I used to be afraid of creating a mess when we were outside toileting. Our wonderful Montessori parent- toddler teacher gave me the push I needed and without her encouragement I would have kept Caspar in nappies for much longer. This time with Otis I shall feel more assured leaving the house nappy-less and will be using many of the tricks. Truly I am off now to order more lavatory learning trousers after which to set up another toileting space in my bathroom.
Toilet learning - two steps forward, one step back
Thank you in the base of my soul of all of your kind remarks, tricks, ideas, humorous stories and words of encouragement and warmth regarding my post on travelling with a toilet learning toddler.
As I mentioned we were not just travelling, we were travelling last minute, I was travelling with the boys without my husband (hence feeling extra exposed) and we were also grieving for member of the family who's no longer with us. Gosh, I'm having trouble holding back the tears now. Just how did we go?
We left home at about 4.30am. I consider this to be night , and so I kept Otis. But from the plane we went directly to the vehicle and that I made the decision to keep a nappy on. Although he may utilize the potty at home he wouldn't suggest in time for us to stop the automobile. Until he was out of a nappy, it was well into the afternoon. During our stay Otis in was in a combination of knickers training trousers and nappies. He seldom made it to the potty. We didn't make much improvement. Now we are home the nappies are gone again (except for nighttime). During our journeys I learnt several things that I desire to remember. You do not have to be a great or even a good parent of the time. Consistency is vital. Children need consistency to behave consistently. Kids must understand (quite clearly) what is asked of them.
A flexible and relaxed approach will keep you composed.. I hope my next toilet is full of success and high fives. It can be a while coming. But I am not putting pressure on Otis or myself. Now we're back to our own home environment plus a routine that is common toilet learning with that highly popular consistency can be continued by us.
Travelling using a toilet learning toddler - give me strength. We all know the sensitive period for toilet learning is 12-18 months. Eek, Otis is now 17 months and although we've been doing well (by our standards) matters are still a bit hit and miss.
Otis wears training trousers or underpants at home. When we're from the house training slacks are typically worn by Otis. For his nighttime slumber he wears a nappy. To the potty he sometimes makes it at home. He understands when he needs to go. Sometimes he will look at me and next thing and occasionally the potty will be looked at by him we know there exists a pool on the floor. But he is making progress and we have been happy with where we are at. We received some terrible news last night. We are going to be flying out to be with family, first thing tomorrow. With all the craziness of suddenly packing and making arrangements I nearly gave myself permission to return to nappies full time. We now have a flight longs drives ahead of us. Many hours will probably be spent in the houses of family. I'm scared while we are away, that Otis WOn't utilize the potty. That the preparation, cleaning and washing will be a waste of time. But if we go back to nappies what message does that send to Otis? I know a toilet learning toddler is nothing. But as we are toilet learning earlier than others it feels like we've a point to show (and that we will fail miserably). My family are entirely understanding, I understand there's absolutely no shame in having a toddle not allow it to be to the potty. There isn't any shame in wet pants. I am aware my family Otis and will support me.
Montessori Potty Toilet Learning
With a potty isn't always a part of the Montessori approach to toilet learning. By using other adaptions or steps, it might work to make the toilet reachable. If you're interested in toilet learning the Montessori manner I urge Toilet Leaning and Toilet Recognition - The Montessori Strategy. I also recommend posts at Support to Life and Michael Olaf.
Toilet Learning - Our Journey in Overview It's likely this will be our last toilet learning place. Otis has slipped seamlessly (and without fault) into night time toileting. We're at the end of our toilet learning journey. I have a couple ideas and propositions in case you are at the beginning of your journey. Absolutely every kid is different so we must be adaptive nonetheless your strategy as well as your disposition are most significant. It's not chance that Otis is toilet trained. We are very lucky that I'm able to stay at home with him which helps and he is healthy. But what got him 'trained' was patience, determination and consistency. Our very first step in Otis toilet learning was to get him out of a nappy. Training trousers were vital in this process. Otis toilet learned in this and measures is a brief outline.
1. DAY: TRAINING PANTS (AT HOME) NAPPY (WHEN OUT) NIGHT: NAPPY During the day at home Otis wore training pants. When we left the house during the day and at night he wore a nappy. While at home we offered him the potty and when he seemed like he needed to go (we recognised the signs - chiefly holding his slacks) we took him to the potty.
2. DAY: TRAINING PANTS NIGHTTIME: NAPPY Slowly we transitioned to Otis wearing training pants everywhere during the day. The training trousers he wore at this stage (from Michael Olaf but now discontinued) held so there were no pools but Otis wanted tending to instantly. At this stage he was wearing a nappy during the night.
3. DAY: UNDERWEAR (AT HOME) TRAINING PANTS (WHEN OUTSIDE) NIGHTTIME: NAPPY We transitioned Otis to wearing panties at home and just when we left the house wearing training pants. The training trousers gave us assurance that if Otis had an injury most of it'd be caught - no pools on the shop floor, but his clothes and Otis would still be wet. Otis was wearing Under the Nile Baby Training Trousers (12-24 months). At this period he was still wearing a nappy through the night. This was the longest interval of three to four months.
4. DAY: PANTIES NIGHTTIME: NAPPY As Otis became regular and more assured at utilizing the potty he wore a nappy during the night and transitioned to wearing panties all of the time during the day.
5. DAY: UNDERWEAR NIGHTTIME: PANTIES Otis became so confident going to the potty that at night he'd take his nappy away. He transitioned to wearing underwear all the time. He will sometimes make use of the potty at night but usually waits until morning. He generally goes straight to the potty when he wakes in the morning. I make an effort to limit his fluids before bed but he still nurses before bed and during the nighttime. I also ask him to make use of the potty before bed but he is stubborn and generally refuses. As I mentioned we'd offer the potty when it appeared before we left the house and like he need to go to Otis. Frequently when he awakens from his nap or returns from appearances he must go to the potty straight away.
It was important to us that we remained (as much as possible) emotionally detached from the method. It was important to us not to praise or punish, while I appeared pleased when we'd success. We also never pressured Otis. If he seemed like he needed to utilize the potty but refused to do so, I'd take his hand and try to lead him to the potty, usually he would wet his pants and if he still refused I'd leave him. Afterward he'd come to the potty to get changed/cleaned up with me. We never compelled him to utilize the potty, we bribed, threatened or never used harsh words. If he wet his pants - he wet his pants, we only got on with it. We've got toddler seat and a step stool on our toilet which Otis has begun using. He uses the potty and the toilet standing and sitting. We've got a potty in the car which I offered to Otis before he was able to hold for an interval that is decent. On every trip I'd offer him the potty before we departed and when we arrived. It was seldom used by him. Recently he has revealed that he is able to hold and regularly uses public toilets (school, sports stadiums, shops), although he likes to remove his underwear, pants/short, shoes and socks and I'll hold him while he sits on the toilet. You are going to understand we've had up and downs and I've found going and finding us out of routine especially difficult, in the event you read through our Bathroom Learning Posts. There has been lots and wreck of cleaning up. But now we are done at 22 months, it is entirely worth it. If you're at the beginning or in the middle of toilet learning, whichever system you're using - I wish you the absolute best. P.S. I have had some crucial looks when Otis has had an injury in public. No matter the exact age of the child - old or young, please be kind to other parents.